Category: loneliness

What you say is what you are

How many judgements do you make a day? It’s an interesting experiment to count how many times a day you make a judgement. You will lose count quickly, as Judgements are often automatic and the majority of the judgements we make we don’t really fully agree with, yet leave them unchallenged.  To change my automatic thinking judging mind, I practise…

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Body hatred

  The majority of people are experts in self-criticism and self-hatred. I duck for cover at roadrunner speed after  I suggest the concept “acceptance” and how useful it would be to accept how they are right now.   The idea of acceptance is often misunderstood. We often interpret acceptance as giving up, and giving up would…

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Existential isolation

Invisibility is considered a superpower said someone who hasn’t lived feeling invisible to the world. Existential isolation is a harrowing and profoundly self-destructive experience of being disconnected from the world.  What makes this existential concept utterly soul-destroying is the problem is outlined in indelible ink. Ralph Ellison, Author of The invisible man describes his experience…

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The hidden benefits of misery

My mind is diligently curious, a part of me would like to settle into the cosy religion of comfort and follow the herd. I crave this ‘unquestioning normality’ at times, but I can’t help but pick holes in theories ideas and beliefs, not because I want to break down people’s comfort or dispute everything that presents as a possible navigational system, for life.

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